Reflections of a naive woman…an old reflection

My thoughts are winding in my brain in many directions . unfaithfulness, cheating, screwing, whatever it could be called. It is happening everywhere and we are all part of it , and  yet can’t understand or get to a point were we know what is going on and why .

As if it is an international code, everyone is doing it , with all life problems, cultural, ethnic, political everything differences , with all the wars and crisis, we are all unified in this matter .

If we are supposed to be born from a man’s rib, which ideally, would make the holy merge of humanity, what is whatever is happening in between our lives .

In the past I could also agree that this is a man’s dis-functionality . I cannot say it couldn’t work with women , the fact that I was a devoted wife, and I was sure nothing could ever come out to make it otherwise. Fidelity and faithfulness were on top of everything , I was convinced that the man I married was the man that would stay for the rest of my life .

Because I believed that I must have been meant to be.

But , what with all the other women, who came through his life, they were tissues from that rib?

And again , today, with my deep belief that there is no such thing as man’s different nature . We both have our differences, but our needs with its differences do not vary in the way we were taught .Our differences are meant to make us become one .

So this thing of man’s being unable to just have only one woman is just a man’s creation . Women’s need were always neglected and ignored and went unmentioned through history.

I really feel bad for the situation of women ever since men started taking control . Ever since women decided that they needed that piece of meat the man came back with on his lousy hunting tour .

When he forced on her a new food , which causes life’s most diseases and I am sure she cooked it for him and she wasn’t much interested in eating that meat.

The conceit that this built in man, after she showed him gratitude and appreciation, deteriorated the woman’s status until the end of times. This woman didn’t know that she executed her fellow women for thousands years to come .

I am not sure how much women coped with situation along history .

Men putting rules and women sneaking through them but submitting from outside .

If it could be fair to say that women decided today to also lead the life the way men do it . Maybe it is the way it should be. Man is not the only polygamist creature. It’ s both men and women . and if they both decided that it is  no longer one plus one , it is one plus whatever it takes, then it applies to women too.

But does this put us in a chaos? Aren’t we already living in this chaos secretly . The oppressed do it secretly and the oppressor do it publicly , but doing it publicly , announcing it in public that we both need to be liberated from a one on one relationship and start flying around .

Maybe it is true , that what our world would need, thanks to science it could be applicable now, to,diminish the institution of marriage because it proved to be destructive.

If the union in marriage is or was meant to happen for the sake of securing children, today the DNA can go back to bones and know who is the father of whom. And I bet, if they run DNA tests on the world the results would be striking.

Pre Islam, there was massive women dominance, children were named after their mothers not fathers, women were those who decided who the father of their children was.

Even though Islam liberated women from being buried alive, it took the freedom that women had from being the polygamists and simply gave that role to the man. As if it was time to tame those wild creatures.

April 2008